I guess those of you who have followed my social media accounts know this already, but I still get the dreaded question ‘Are you dating Derek?’ weekly. The answer is NO. I love Derek (Michael Seater) as a best friend, but that is it. Sorry everybody. But don’t worry, I’m still 100% Pro Dasey.
I am married to a hockey player. Over the last 7 years I have split my time between Toronto, California, Michigan, Connecticut, Austria, Switzerland, Germany, and Sweden. When I tell people that I am married to a hockey player, their first reaction is usually, ‘You’re so lucky!’ or ‘Must be nice to follow him around while he pursues his dream,’ or ‘What do you actually do all day? Like sit around and drink wine?’ – That is one of my personal favourites.
The truth is, there are times that I struggle with being a ‘hockey wife’ and everything that comes with it. Marrying a hockey player has meant less time to pursue my acting career, living out of a suitcase, missing every single person whom I love more than this world, planes…. SO MANY PLANES, and of course, trying to keep a sometimes long-distance relationship working. I’m sure you’ve heard of the hockey player stereotype. If I had a nickel for every time somebody asked me if I’m worried that Jeremy will cheat on me when I’m not there, I’d be on the Forbes list. There are times when I don’t want to live this lifestyle anymore, and I wish more than anything that I was home with my family. Missing birthdays, Christmas, babies being born. It begins to feel like you are no longer ‘a part’ of everything. Let’s face it, as good as Skype, WhatsApp and FaceTime may be, there is no substituting being there in person to experience these huge life moments.
There are times when I get really negative and only dwelling on the things I am missing, that I forget to be thankful for the wonderful things I have gotten to experience because of the hockey world. I have made numerous friends whom I am so blessed to know, I have gotten to travel the world with the man I love most, I continually am there to cheer my husband on while he follows his dreams, and in return, he is ALWAYS there to push me to follow mine. The truth is, I can’t imagine not living life this way. It is all I have ever known, and in a sick way I must enjoy the uncertainty, sadness, happiness, spontaneity, and butterflies each new season brings me – Because I wouldn’t want to live any other way. For a hockey player, your career is short, and I plan on enjoying every last minute of it until Jeremy can no longer play. I never want to regret missing out on an opportunity to travel the world, learn about new cultures, or meet new friends because I was scared, or for a moment felt homesick. So I will continue this ride no matter where it takes us!
I am very lucky to have been able to continue working on projects when I am home. It gives me a sense of purpose and is my passion. Even though it sometimes feels like I am juggling 30 balls at once, I am beyond blessed to be an actress/hockey wife 😉